The woman I used to be forgive her if she seems bitter - she is just drained. She probably looks like she has her life together but she has just gotten good at being facade. She keeps to herself (some call her reserved) because she took so much in that she is tired. She is just trying to hold it together. She has a lot of trust issues because she depended on people and gave people chances but they always failed her. She doesn’t get attached to people because they seem to always leave. Be careful what you say to her because words tend to stick to her because she is struggling with insecurity. However, don’t forget to let her know, that things got better. She understood that people’s opinion about her is not her problem. Tell her she learned to love herself and stopped looking for people’s affirmation. Let her know that even though people called her African booty scratcher, she would never change being born in Kenya. She is proud of the village and the people that raised her. Let her know that she didn’t choose to be born with a dark skin but she learned to be proud and love it. She stopped blaming herself for people leaving and realized people change because they are either a blessing or lesson in life. Let her know that down the road she has met some of the most amazing people. She kept some of the good things of the woman she used to be, but left all the luggage she was carrying at the foot of Jesus. She learned to ask for help without feeling like a burden. She has worked on being open to people even though sometimes it doesn’t come easy. Remind her that she laughs a lot, still talks a lot, and when life is hard she remembers that her pain is God’s platform because she learned to apply Matthew 11: 28 to her life. She learned to endure and make the best of what life dealt her. She learned to be grateful and content of everything in her.
The woman I am meant to be probably doesn’t have her life together but she is still joyful because she serves a God who has it all together- what she lacks He fills. Tell her to take life one day at time and make the best of what she got. Let her know that the woman she is now is trying her best to be the queen God created her to be.
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