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Boundaries

Dear Letter,


It has been a hooot minute. I was taking a study break and decided let's catch up. I was looking through my notes app and saw a note I wrote about a year and some change back about boundaries. At the time my mindset was things I wanted to live by or a big nono at my big age. As I read the note, I will say there are some I am still working on mastering (listen all I do in life is try my best). Anyways the "rules" go like this:

  • Try your best and put God first

  • Look out for number 2

  • If it feels toxic, don't entertain. If it looks toxic, don't entertain. If it sounds toxic, don't entertain.

  • Whoever cheats on someone, shall not be trusted.

  • Never play judge, juror, & executioner. You are not God.

  • Don't overstay your welcome.

  • Stop playing saviour in everyone's story. You are not Jesus.

  • You can't help everyone, especially if they aren't willing to help themselves.

  • If it costs your peace and faith, don't pay up.

  • There is a fine line between saving and helping. Remember that!

  • Walk in discernment, exercise it with wisdom.

  • Never be put in a position where you have to choose between loyalty to yourself and loyalty to other people.

  • Do not entertain people who do not respect you.

  • If someone ghosts you, respect the dead and keep it moving.

  • I am not in the ministry of blind loyalty. Everyone is getting checked.

  • Mind the business that pays you.

  • You are human not a machine, give yourself the same grace you offer others.

  • Don't give your power away!

  • The moment he raises his hand at you, leave the relationship IMMEDIATELY and cut all ties!

  • Forgiveness doesn't equal access.

P.S: There is no hierarchy to any of these "rules", its just how I wrote them as time passed by.


Until Next Time,

D

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